Do you believe that you can have love and success, or are you one of those pessimists who believe that having a balance of the two is just a mere fantasy? We are taught as we grow up to make education our main focus, to pick a career goal and stay focused until we achieve the dream. Placing the opposite sex on the back burner in our early stage of development is probably the wise choice but this requires a lot of focus and determination.
I believe that both male and female can rise to both occasions provided that we learn to prioritize and choose a mate with similar interests. I don't think it is so much important to have the same goals, but both need to be goal oriented and have a mutual respect for the others dream. Both parties also need to be serious about cultivating a loving and prosperous environment in which the offspring can use as a model for their futures. When the ideas don't match one can become drowned out by the others plans and determination. The relationship becomes strained and the children and sometimes even members from our extended families are affected by our poor life structure.
So continue to tap into that greatness that lives in each and every one of us. In order to achieve this necessary balance you will need to know who you are and have a strong sense of direction. When we possess insecurities it is easily picked up on by our mate or potential mate as well as those individuals we meet along the way who can possibly help make or dreams a reality.
If your heart is geared towards having a successful career and being in a loving relationship don't give up or settle because if you do you will always have a void spot in your life, an emptiness that can be avoided by continuous self exploration and by maintaining a positive outlook.
Putting God first will keep it all in perspective.
Be Blessed!

